What to expect with a c-section

When I was pregnant with my first child I was completely terrified of having a baby vaginally because I have heard many horror stories from the birthing pain to the ripping but then I heard the stories of c-sections and it being an actual surgeries, needing your stomach stitched shut, and how the pain can linger for up to a year. Okay, so to be completely honest I was completely terrified of both vaginal and a c-section. I got to the point where I was calm and okay with having a vaginal delivery because most doctors don’t even give you a choice anyway and would rather avoid having a c-section if at all possible. Unfortunately I was in a pretty horrible car accident when I was 7 months pregnant. I lacerated, broke, and bruised a lot of things in my body and one of those things happened to be my pelvis (I think it was three different spots of my pelvis that were broke) so the doctor was not sure if I wanted to have a vaginal delivery after that because of how frail my bones would be and the fact that pushing and the strain may even cause issues during delivery. I did not want to risk it and was already a little skeptical about doing it because I was told that the strain from labor could be too hard on my heart. I also liked the idea of knowing when my due date was instead of it spontaneously happening because the hospital I chose to deliver at was an hour and forty minutes away.
When c-section day rolled around I was completely terrified and did not know what to expect. I literally had a panic attack and freak out – crying, breathing heavy, and just not wanting to go through with it. Eventually my husband and the doctors calmed me down and I went to the room they perform c-sections at. I had to have a catheter put in previously before entering the room though. I was only wearing a hospital gown. I had to bend forward and they had a needle that they pushed in my spine (I think it was a spinal tap but I am not certain) and it stung a little. It numbed me and the nurses help me lay down. The nurses prepped everything (tools that were needed, area for the baby, etc) and the anesthesiologist came in. He was an older gentleman and was very kind. He was only there just in case something were to happen and I needed anesthesia. The doctor came in and I was allowed one person back there with me which was my husband. The doctor pushed hard on the area he was going to perform my c-section just to make sure I could not feel anything which I couldn’t. He cut probably around 7-8 inches below my belly button and it was not a huge cut. I could not see anything because there was a white thing (I don’t remember if it was a sheet or what) in between me and the doctor. I assume it was up so if I were to puke, sneeze, etc the area would be protected from any foreign objects (like an eyelash or something) from entering in the area and causing an infection. I did not feel him cut me open but felt a little pressure. I felt a lot of pressure when he was pulling the baby out and it hurt in a way that I would say you would feel if you fell hard (when it knocks the breath out of you) the pain was not like a extreme pain type of pain but like a ton of pressure kind of pain. It really is hard to explain unless you have felt it before. After tugging the baby for a bit she was out and they rushed her to get all cleaned up, the stuff sucked from her mouth and face, and to get her measured and weighed. My husband watched a lot of the birth and he didn’t flinch at all and was even narrating some to me. The anesthesiologist kept telling me everything was fine because I was worried I was not breathing (that is just the affects of the spinal tap) but he assured me everything was fine and was very kind. They brought me her and I got to see her and I believe I even got to hold her (not sure though but I know I did get to hold the other two and I got pictures holding them while still on the operating table.) I even made jokes to the doctor about how he can suck the fat out of me before sewing me back up and we all laughed. It really was not at all as bad as I had expected. With my first I don’t remember having extreme pain from gas but I was also on strong pain medicine from the car accident and had issues after the c-section (blood thinners I was on due to a blood clot from the car accident ended up causing me to have a hematoma in my c- section) but with my other two c-sections the gas pains were rough and it was hard to walk around. The pain from the gas my my neck ache bad as well as my back. The gas is from the air that enters when they sew you up. Around 5 days after having my second c-section I was jumping on the trampoline which I was later advised should absolutely not be done because the stitches/glue can come undone and literally cause your insides to fall out which could result into something as serious as death. Basically, take things easy even if you find that you have so much energy built up from no longer being pregnant. After having my third I was in pain but still walked up and down stairs. I did not use any of the pain medicine when I came home because I wanted to push through it all without any medicine what so ever which led in me crying a lot more than I had wanted to but I did it, pushed through the pain without the help of any medication. We have 3 healthy, beautiful girls whom are now 6, 3, and 1. If you are afraid of having a c-section just remember that you probably are not going to remember the pain after the year is over with (I literally don’t remember what the pain was and therefore I keep having kids which ends up reminding me wow, this actually kind of hurts.) I have read that vaginal births have the worse pain during delivery but c-sections have the worst pain recovery wise and some have said that they still feel slight pain in the area a year later. For me, that is not how it was and I personally would not mind having at least one more child in the future (the plan is to have 2 more.) I have heard good stories of both vaginal and c-sections and each body and person is different. Don’t stress it. You will be fine. Sure, it seems scary to think about but when you hold your sweet bundle of joy you will see that every bit of it was worth it. Rather you had a c-section or a vaginal birth.